Be True to yourself – Joe

Are you living your life based on the truth or are you living a lie? Is your life controlled by a lack of understanding of who you are, your capabilities and your shortcomings? Living by the truth is a necessity if you desire to live a fulfilling life. Today, many are living a lie. Firstly, they are living a life they neither designed nor control. Secondly, they are living their lives based on false perceptions. If you desire positive change in your life you must be totally committed to recognizing and weeding out the false perceptions that are undesirable and that are a hindrance to achieving your dreams.

Let me give you some examples. There are many people that are living in the misconception that if they work hard all their productive life in a “good” job, they will enjoy their old age in comfort and won’t ever need to work again once they get their hard-earned pension. There are others that believe that they are not capable of ever having their own successful business or being wealthy and are content with just getting by.

 Conversely, there are those that are living thinking that they, one day, will be rich and yet they are doing nothing about getting there. Additionally, there are those that are living beyond their means because they think they already are wealthy. There are others who want to have a happy marriage and wonderful kids, yet they spend all their time at “the club” with their friends or at work. They do not put in the time and efforts needed to have a good, happy family.

There are yet other people that live the lie that their boss will one day wake up in a good mood and give them a promotion rather than them having to do something outstanding to get noticed and to actually deserve the promotion. Never mind the fact that even if they got the promotion they would lose it in a week for incompetence because they had not prepared for it. The list goes on and on and so could I. The point I am trying to get at is that if you desire to live a life of success you have to live by the truth. You have to be able to critically look at yourself and your life and see where you are in relation to where you want to be.

This is not always pleasant. But it is necessary. As the author and psychiatrist Dr. M. Scott Peck says in his classic book, The Road Less Travelled, “a life of total dedication to the truth also means a life of willingness to be personally challenged.”It is not easy to look at yourself and realise that there are some things within you that you need to change. It is sometimes very painful to face the unpleasant things about yourself, your friends, your spouse, and others. But if you don’t acknowledge and face the truth of your unpleasant situation how can you change it?

Generally speaking, people live the lie that life is supposed to be easy. We complain when things seem a little tough or we have to put some extra effort into something. But as Dr. Peck opens in his book: “Life is difficult. This is a great truth because once we truly see this truth, we transcend it. Once we truly know that life is difficult – once we truly understand and accept it – then life is no longer difficult. Because once it is accepted, the fact that life is difficult no longer matters.”

This statement is only one side of the coin. The other side is that though life is difficult, there are ways to make it easier. There are ways to make life more fulfilling and more enjoyable. I am not saying these ways are easy, in fact, they are not. That is why few people are willing to travel that way. But for those that do, the rewards are great.

These things include, but are not limited to: knowing who you really are, dedicating yourself to continuous learning, being committed to personal leadership, dedication to living by the truth (no matter how unpleasant it may be), and the courage and ability to be all that you can be. Being unrealistic and living on “cloud nine” are not attributes of a dreamer, as is commonly the perception. It is generally thought that if you are a dreamer then your head is not on the right way or, at the very least, you have a screw loose somewhere up there.

The list of great dreamers that were ridiculed and laughed at in their times is long and offers great insight into human nature and the folly of listening to the masses. Albert Einstein, Thomas Edison, Alexander Graham Bell and Henry Ford are people that we recognize today as having contributed a lot to the well-being and advancement of humanity.

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