How to get your life back after episodes of depression – Seyi

Recovering from depression could be a difficult task; this is generally a situation experienced by those who have suffered from depression. Especially when the road to recovery is wrongly perceived to be a destination rather than a process. So when the result we want is not forthcoming-when and how we want it, one becomes disappointed. This mistaken stance makes the recovery process hard and frustrating. In addition, what makes it more difficult is the fact that the things that make the process finds it rhythm on the path to recovery are the very things these mental challenges has robbed you of: good sleep, positive and realistic thinking, a motivation for healthy physical activities, companionship’s of friends and family etc. It becomes harder because locked on somewhere in your mind is the unhelpful thought that the boogie man is still out there; you lock yourself in a perpetual cage where every possible outlet is considered as been always hopeless.

Darling, get a grip ‘cos the boogie man is gone. You can take your life back again by taking these steps- this list is by no means inclusive. Make further research or consult professional counselors for help.

  1.          Prioritise your goals

Recovery and the essential steps and activities to observe to ensure achievements could be overwhelming such that you are always at crossword in terms of what do and in what order. So to begin a step progress in this situation, it might help a great deal to write down what area of your life you want a change, in order of priority e.g lost relationships; lack of motivation to do a certain thing you have hitherto enjoyed.

  1.        Kill every sense of guilt and condemnation

Feeling a sense of guilt and condemnation during or after recovery, which may cause one to dive back into the initial status is common. For the journey to recovery to be worth taking at all, all forms of guilt and sadness should be done away with. Depression strips people of what makes them who they are it is not your fault, it is is not what you wish for. In order to avoid the pain of guilt and sadness, you might want to consider focusing on areas where you are good. Yes that right, there is something great about you: a good cook, a great thinker, a listener, a good preacher or speaker, a good counselor, a lovely singer. There is something that makes you unique. Focus on those things

  1. Put your ADLs on your priority list

When you lack motivations to do what you earlier enjoy to do, it impacts your functional status- sometimes measured by Activities in Daily Living ADLs. These are your daily self-care such as bathing and showering, tooth brushing, hair care, dressing, toilet hygiene. Set goals, as part of your recovery plan, that will get you back on track with doing all these activities with enthusiasm.

  1. Reconcile with lost friends and family members

The thought of losing friends and family can also be overwhelming because you have lived in isolation for a long period. While some friends might stay and weather the storm together with you, some will live you. Such is life don’t feel guilty about it. Making the decision to work on your relationships would be helpful. Plan on reconciling your lost relationship; discuss the state of your friendship and what lead to this; discuss your physical and mental health and get it over with. Friends who understand your conditions will assist you while you are recovering. True friendship can be very therapeutic. Though true friends are hard to find these days, they are still out there. Remember, it is a gradual process so no rush.

  1. Don’t stop the medication until it is safe to do so

During recovery, perhaps, you have been diagnosed as having depression and therefore had been prescribed medication. The chance that you want to stop medication altogether, immediately and consequently cause withdrawal syndrome is highly likely. Talking to your GP or a professional might be very helpful. Your GP would help advice and work out on reducing drug dosage until it is safe for you to stop the medication.

  1. Take care of finances aspect with help

Your finances are also an aspect of your life that suffers the most blows when depression piled into you. During this episode you might find that you are not as effective in place of work or on rare occasion, you lost your job and as a result nosedived into unplanned and unpleasant debt.There are organizations e.g. step change-who helps to manage debt, and hence help bear your burden.

Friends are of great resources in helping you organize expenditures in alignment with your income.

In conclusion, you can get your life back again and look forward with enthusiasm to the days ahead. Remember, it is a process rather than a destination so it is gradual. You could hit a bumpy road while trying don’t throw in the towel; keep pushing.

When life begins to stray at the edges, it is normal – it will take its toll on our capacity to handle daily life activities and challenges, but It is equally normal and brave to fight back and take back your precious life because it’s yours.



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